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Sunday outing

Well my son’s surgery went well on Friday and I am so pleased! He had a condition known as strabismus which is the medical term for crossed eyes (actually only one of them was misaligned). So now he will be away from school for a few days while he recuperates from a procedure which took only 45 minutes and was performed by a top notch surgeon. It was all covered by the Canadian health system which Canadians so love to complain about but is in fact quite good overall. This is something I can attest to personally given the treatment I received when I had my stroke.

I spent my Sunday off yesterday doing some Christmas shopping and I ended up, quite by happenstance, meeting a nice lady called Leila while I was having a coffee. She is an immigrant from Lebanon who’s been in Canada for 21 years. We had a nice discussion and she ended up giving me her card as she and her husband run a business from their home selling a special type of imported cooking oil. She told me we should meet again and I agreed that we should. She seems like a very nice person.

This type of scenario is happening to me more often as my comfort level with my identity as a female increases. I am still the same person but I am in the process of joining the two halves of my personality into one unit. The only difference is the way I am dressed and the way I gesture as Joanna.

I still feel uncomfortable with the idea however of telling people I am trans and since I can pass as a female it becomes easier to lie. Certainly someone like Leila, who I would guess to be about 70, would not be as receptive to a trans person than someone in their 20’s. So I am conscious of my audience but I know that I need to eventually be more truthful in the future when I meet new people in order to have a more cohesive life.

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