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transsexual vs transsexual

I find it hard to understand why some transsexual women seem to rank themselves above everyone else because they knew early on they were girls and because they were helped along by their families. The website of one such women was full of derogatory remarks against those late transitioning and autogynephelic transsexuals that she refers to as men in dresses. But even if she were right in her analysis (and I will explain why I don't think she is) I find the ranking disturbing and unnecessary and at worst just plain mean spirited. Anne Lawrence and company would label her a homosexual transsexual who transitions early.

She has many entries where she describes her life and how she transitioned at 25 after knowing for many years she was a girl. She had support from her family and even looked feminine. So there were clear advantages to transitioning especially since she was being bullied for being so girly and really had a rough time of it at school. I know her life has not been easy and there was some heartbreak in there as well.

Nevertheless, I find her tone and vitriol particularly disturbing. She invalidates everyone who transitions late especially if they married a woman and had children without understanding what these other transsexuals went through. I mean it's not like people are lining up to get sex changes. God knows it's my last resort in my battle against this disphoria of mine and yes I have children that I desperately don't want to hurt but the truth is that many of us type 2 transsexuals don't want to go where we end up because we are desperately trying to meet the demands of normalcy in our society so we macho up and try and make it work. We may not all be wispy and effeminate boys who are attracted to other boys either so that makes it more likely we will ignore our disphoria and try to fight it. Fight as hard as we can because we're not as fortunate as her to have known from day one that we were true transsexuals .If I thought for one moment I would be where I am today, I never would have married but then I would not have the prize of my 2 beautiful children from a flawed marriage. I tried to stay married for the sake of my kids but my ex would have nothing of it as she said "I don't want to be married to a woman".

So I would suggest that we all try and get along because as one of those autogynepheliic late bloomers that my aforementined friend likes to criticize, I would not wish my struggle on my worst enemy. In fact I'd be happy if it all just went away anI never needed to dress again.

I'll make her a deal, I won't criticize her if she doesn't criticize me. Now there's a thought.

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